Will You Be My Friend?

Sometimes finding friends starts with becoming one yourself.

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“Friendship is hard once you become an adult,” she said to me across the lunch table. I nodded in agreement both experientially and in theory. I was nearing 40 and the farther I got from the baby and toddler years the more it seemed my friendships were harder to maintain. I resonated with her struggle. I used to love getting together for mom’s night out dinners and now I can barely stay awake past 8 PM. My kids are actually sleeping through the night and can make their own lunch. Friendship should be easier now, not harder—right?

I’ve heard some version of this statement a number of times in my years in ministry. For every woman who has a slew of friends she’s maintained over the years, I know countless others who want a friend but don’t know where to begin. For those of us looking for friendship, we feel like we’re back in the middle school cafeteria scanning the tables for inviting faces and someone to accept us.